Hello everyone, I hope you had a splendid weekend? Please, I need you to help me find answers to some questions I would ask at the end of this piece. I watched a movie a couple of days ago and it got me thinking. The movie was meant to be a comedy, but I didn't find it funny one bit (it had its funny aspect, even though it was not my type of comedy). I didn't find it funny because of a particular occurence in the movie (please note that the movie is not centered around this particular occurence). Let me give you a brief summary of the occurrence.
A man sends his driver to pick his daughter (I think his only daughter by the way) from the University (the University was far from the house); she just graduated (freshest graduate). On their way home, the car became faulty (very late at night) and the man called and asked them to lodge in a hotel for the night. Before we start imagining things, the daughter sleeps in the hotel room, while the driver sleeps in the car. After lodging into the hotel, she becomes bored and goes clubbing with the driver. I find out later in the movie that she got drunk, while he was sober, and they had sexual intercourse which led to her being pregnant. They get back home, after a while the father finds out about the pregnancy and chases both her and the driver out of the house. Thus, he disowns his daughter and fires the driver. They live together struggling to survive in a one room apartment.
Please note the following: they are not in love, the driver is not six feet tall, not body built, not a drop dead gorgeous guy, the driver had never been to a club before, the daughter took the driver to the club because he said he hadn't been to a club before, the daughter met the driver for the first time as he had just been employed (i.e. not love at first sight), the girl is a graduate while the driver is very dull, ignorant and an illiterate, they never got married, he wasn't able to provide for her needs, he never became bright, he never improved, he sometimes blamed the girl for his situation and she was never happy. The movie didn't say whether she gave birth or not.
Here are my questions: Is it right for parents to chase their pregnant daughters out of the house? Why do the parents chase them out? Is it because of shame or dissapointment? Is it right drinking till you are drunk? Is it right taking advantage of a drunk person? Is clubbing a cure for boredom? I would really appreciate your answers. You could drop your answers as comment or send it to my email: aaribisala3@gmail.com
Wishing you a blessed week ahead.
Not right chasing pregnant daughters away but as a parent, I would shift total attention to the unborn kid with resources I would have spent on the daughter.
ReplyDeleteClubbing can be a cure or not but depends on persons involved.
There's nothing right about chasing them out, most times they do this cos of shame and disappointment but I don't know why the love they claim to have for their kids become alien at that moment.
ReplyDeleteDrinking till you're drunk is irresponsible, everyone should know their limit. It's absolutely wrong to take advantage of a drunk person, it's the highest form of disrespect and disloyalty.
Well, these days people tend to go clubbing to get over boredom, it is just sad that they wake up the next day twice as bored as they were the previous day.
By the way, what's the title of the movie now😉?
Thank you so much for reading the article. More thanks for answering the questions. God bless you DJ P and Olan...
ReplyDeleteWhen a daughter gets pregnant out of wedluck ,i feel the parent are ashamed and r mostly bothered abt wat people(other relative included) would say and would send her out because she has brought shame to d family or has spoilt d FAMILY NAME...when u make a decision DAT would affect ur life and dat of ur daughter and ur unborn grandchild as a parent based on wat people would say or d shame it would bring is totally wrong...
ReplyDelete..taking an advantage of a drunk person in any way at all isn't right..drinking till u get drunk isn't right also..y would just clubbing be a cure for boredom,wats wrong with going to vigils??..
We are all wired differently though,for some people clubbing is real fun and all and to some,it is just not it. I don't think it is necessary for parents to send their pregnant daughters out,what has happened has happened. The parents of such girls should be their support and not another source of challenge. In my opinion,taking advantage of a drunk person is RAPE.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for reading and for the answers supplied. I really appreciate it.
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