If He MAKES ME HAPPY, He AIN'T FOR ME...

Hello everyone, how was your day? I want to wish you a fulfilled week ahead. Overtime, I have heard people give different reasons why they love or hate their partners and what has or hasn't improved for and in them since the relationship started. In most cases, I don't really say anything because I don't like talking to people about their relationships, which to me is only fully understood by them. Due to this, I end up being asked the question, "What do you want in a man?" Well, well, well, this is to inform you that I DON'T KNOW. They believe it is a lie, that, I just don't want to answer them. PLEASE NOTE: Believe what you want and stop asking annoying questions.

To start with, I don't really understand most relationships these days. Most relationships are either too good to be true, too bad or a total waste of time, space, energy, life and happiness. This is really not encouraging to want to change ones status from HAPPILY SINGLE (emphasis on happily) to IN A RELATIONSHIP or TAKEN or ENGAGED or whatever it is called these days. As I said earlier, I don't know what I want but on the other hand, I know what I don't want. Let me tell you the top four things I don't want in a man.

 Wait, I hope you are not expecting a list like I want a man who is tall, handsome, has tattoo, no smoking or drinking, church goer, good in bed, has tongue piercing, beard gang, is an only child, kissable lips, matured, young, fat and ugly kinda list.

If this is what is you are expecting, truthfully, you will wait forever. Before I list them, I want to state the following, I am a beautiful, intelligent, hardworking, happy and content kind of girl, who can speak for herself, fight her battles and loves herself unconditionally. This is to help in understanding why I don't want some particular things in a man. Here it goes:

1. I don't want a man who makes me happy: I am a very happy child, so telling me you want to make me a happy is a useless peace of information that does not concern me. If you don't have the ability to make me happier, then leave me alone.

2. I don't want a man who is an ADVANCED CHALLENGE: Life is full of different challenges (problems, obstacles, disappointment, setbacks, and so on); so, a man who is an advanced form of this and adds to the already existing one is unnecessary, unwanted, useless and a waste of life. On the other hand, a man who makes it easier and so light for you to overcome these challenges is a blessing.

3. I don't want a man who believes I am his ADVANCED YOUNGER SISTER: Let's get their straight, I am not in any way your younger sister, niece, cousin (in an advanced form or not), therefore I have a right to reason for myself, make decision for myself, in short I have a right to live my life. Don't talk to me as if I am beneath you or as if someone made you this elder brother, who to me is very unnecessary and annoying. A man who knows how to communicate his ideas, opinion, suggestions and thought to his lady like a fellow adult human being and knows how to correct her in a matured manner is a rare treasure.

4. I don't want a man who thinks I am a PIECE OF HIM: The saying you are my missing rib or the piece that complete me which is used as an endearment is like a permission to stalk a person to me. I am not an extension of you; we are two different individuals who make a beautiful combination. Please and please, don't act as a monitoring evil spirit and call numerous times to ask my location or what I am doing at the moment. This PIECE OF ME scam is annoying. It is nice to know someone is thinking about you but please don't become a stalker. 

There are my top four no-no's in a man. In summary, I want a man that has SENSE, meaning Sensible, Extraordinaire, Nevertheless Sexy Enough. Is that too much to ask? Thank you for being patient with me till the end. I would like if you could share yours also as a comment. Thank you.

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