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BECAUSE I AM A GIRL...

Because I am a girl, I should be a girl.
Because I am a girl, I should do what girls do.
Because I am a girl, I should be soft & calm.
Because I am a girl, I should speak soft & gentle.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t compete with boys.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t engage in activities termed as dangerous.
Because I am a girl, I should be feminine.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t have or do anything considered to be masculine.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t talk too much.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t think too much.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t aim too high.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t be like a man.
Because I am a girl, I should know my place.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t ride a bike or bicycle.
Because I am a girl, I should only do jobs meant for females.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t drive like a man.
Because I am a girl, I should know how to cook & clean.
Because I am a girl, I should love household chores.
Because I am a girl, I shouldn’t be too concerned about a career.
Because I am a girl, I should know that my end goal is the kitchen.
Because I am a girl, I must love children.
Because I am a girl, I must bring forth children.
Because I am a girl, I must be fertile.
Because I am a girl, I must dress in an acceptable manner, especially if I am married.
Because I am a girl, I need to get married.
Because I am a girl, I need a man to be complete.
Because I am a girl, I need a man to be a happy.
Because I am a girl, I need permission to do things, especially when I am married.
Who determines what a girl can do and cannot do?
Who allows or gives permission to girls on how they can live their lives?
Why should a girl have to behave in a certain way to be a girl?
What are the rules to be followed to be accepted by the society?
What is the importance of a girl behaving the way the society dictates?
Why should a girl’s worth be determined by what she does?
Why should a girl’s worth be determined by whether or not she has a man in her life?
Why should a girl obey the societal rules and ideals on how she should behave?
What does the term “like a man” mean?
Who is a girl?
Don’t girls have right to live?
Don’t they have right to become what they want?
Are girls not human beings?
So, you mean because I am a girl, I should obey, without questioning, the ideals of the society about how a girl should be, act and behave?



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